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Love makes you do crazy things. That’s what everyone says and it’s what nearly everyone believes.
The recent flood of love in every song, movie, TV show, book, and magazine has permeated our hearts with the thought and idea that love is all that is truly needed. But the truth is, love isn’t always enough reason to stay in a relationship. We hear from many people who tell us unhealthy behaviours or feeling unhappy in a relationship but say that they still love their partners. This was the case of Amanda Felix a hairdresser who was constantly being abused by Demian. He had cut her off from all her friends and family members who had tried to advise her about the verbal and physical abuse she often got from him. Whenever they tried to advise her to work away. She would say she loved him and he would change. The abuse went on for years until one day during their usual arguments and fights. She had threatened to leave him. Demian afraid of that has poured fuel over both of them saying if he couldn’t be with her no one will. This led to their demise when he lit fire over both of them. As sad as the story above may seem, this is the situation of many women who have been threatened not to leave their partners when being abused for the sake of love till death do us part or only death can separate us. It’s important to recognize that love is just one part of a whole. Loving and caring deeply for someone is a wonderful feeling but it’s a feeling that can also make a relationship complicated. It’s important to recognize that love is just one part of a whole. There are a few other crucial ingredients to having a solid, healthy relationship.
5 Questions You Should Answer
If you’re in a relationship and have often wondered if love is truly enough, ask yourself the following questions
1. Do we trust each other?
If you love someone but you don’t trust them or they don’t trust you, the relationship can’t be healthy. Trust is a building block of any healthy relationship. Without it, jealousy and insecurity will be the order of the day.
2. Do we respect each other’s boundaries?
Setting boundaries helps ensure that everyone in the relationship feels comfortable and safe. It is crucial to respect each other’s boundaries even if you (or your partner) don’t like them. Disrespecting boundaries is unhealthy for any relationship.
3. Do we feel supported and comfortable talking to each other about anything, including having difficult conversations?
Being able to communicate openly with your partner about anything without fear of how they’ll respond is important in a healthy relationship. Even if you bring up a difficult topic or disagree, it shouldn’t lead to screaming, name-calling, or physical confrontation. You deserve to feel safe talking to the person you love.
4. Do we have fun together?
It may seem obvious but we’ll say it anyway. Having fun together is a really important part of a healthy relationship! Even if you love your partner, frequently feeling unhappy or insecure in your relationship may be a sign that your relationship isn’t as healthy as it could be. Everyone deserves to be in a healthy, fun, and loving relationship.
5. Does I help my partner become a better person and vice versa?
Evaluating the impact of a partner on your all-round growth is so imperative in a healthy relationship. Does your partner inspire you to be better, to do more with your life, to follow your dreams, and to be passionate about your goals? When it comes to a healthy relationship, everyone deserves a loving and supportive partner who pushes them to become the best version of themselves.
Reasons to break up even when you’re in love
When you hear about a couple that just broke up, you probably assume they weren’t happy in the relationship. But that’s not necessarily the case. Some breakups have to happen even when both people are happy — and they’re often the most devastating ones. Here are some reasons to consider breaking up even when you’re happy in your relationship, because there’s a lot more to relationships than happiness:
1. Conflict of values
It is possible to be in love with someone who has a different value system from you. If disagreements constantly arise due to this over a long period of time, a break up may be a good solution.
2. Lack of trust
In relationships where trust has be broken or is constantly being broken overtime by one partner. A break up may not be a bad idea.
3. Domestic abuse
Physical, verbal, emotional, sexual or psychological abuse from a partner could lead to a break up because if one constantly stays in such relationship, it could lead to loss of life or bodily harm.
4. Your dreams do not align
When both partners want different things which constantly leads to disagreement and disputes which can not be resolved. Breaking up should be considered.
Final Words...
While love is a powerful and essential foundation for any relationship, it alone cannot sustain a partnership through life’s inevitable challenges. Healthy relationships require mutual respect, effective communication, trust, and a willingness to grow and have fun together.
Love is the spark, but it needs the fuel of understanding, compromise, and shared values to keep the flame alive. Without these, even the deepest love can falter under the weight of unmet needs and unresolved conflicts. True partnership thrives not just on love, but on a commitment to nurturing and supporting each other through every high and lows.
